I used to be checking constantly this blog and Im inspired! Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. I have no one to talk to who understands. I was so happy and proud and then I did something he seems to see as unforgivable: I posted a picture of him with me at graduation and said how proud I was. Looking back I can see the disassociation between her reality and mine. Dear Jacquie, Im so sorry to hear what you have been through. She was so close to all of her Aunts and uncles and cousins but she wont speak to anyone. Explains alot of whats happening in our family right now. In his 2015 research published in the journal Psychological Assessment, Keith Sanford, PhD, a psychology professor at Baylor University, found that partners who admitted that they withdrew often during arguments reported being unhappier and more apathetic about the relationship overall. Im lucky hes still kind and appreciative. But as her world began to narrow because she no longer drove a decision she made all on her own & she became increasingly bent over from kiphosis she became more & more demanding, angry, hateful, verbally abusive. You might keep a journal on your progress in that area, take pictures of your new friends, your new environments, and share them with your Mom. My loved one and I were very close for many years. In addition to helpful information there are quite a few comments from people whove also lost a loved one to overdose. The most confusing grief how do grieve someone that is still alive where is the end point? Im not 100% sure why but Im have a feeling he is cheating. My brothers and I somehow escaped this. Im not even 30 yet, this wasnt supposed to happen. You sound like a very strong person and positive. Text PA to 741741 to start the conversation. We were just getting ready to retire whi. After that I focussed on raising my children the best way I could as a single parent and we had a very happy life until my daughter became a teenager and her brain started re adjusting, as they do. Were talking about longer-term psychological distress which will likely require professional help. Grief for the loss of all my friends at that age. My mother didnt understand telling me she didnt want to hear his name was very unhelpful. 1. He changes. I said ok. I need help. These emotions can become even more complicated than the grief that comes after a death when the behaviors and words of the new person causes us to question our old memories. I am in fact glsd to glance t ths webpage posts hich contains lots of helpful infrmation, tanks fr providing suc nformation. We had no foundation to build on. Rock climbing, yoga, or any other type of exercise. . The hell is real. Notify me of followup comments via e-mail. She is now 62 and both her parents passed away kind of young. Hugs to all you out there struggling with grief and loss, Alyce September 4, 2019 at 7:32 am Reply. Ive tried over and over again to connect with her, but she doesnt know how to listen. I cant say that hes changed.. hes always been the same prick. I cut her down from a noose in my garage already limp & resuscitated her. Genuinely happy not the mask Id been hiding behind for years. He is not the same man on any given day. Maybe get a beatiful candle that you light for him sometimes, find some flowers in his favorite color for him and have a little spot on the bench. I was raised by my two grandparents. I cant listen to that song without crying. This involves recognizing the problem, understanding how to best help, offering a listening ear, and keeping the conversation about them. I cant believe in the biggest event kids face in life CPS isnt aware of how it can affect a child to intervene so they dont get ptsd or worse! Cuz truly.. no one gets it. It does not mean that you are lacking something (maybe they are lacking something within themselves) and no matter how many things you did for them or no matter how much you loved them, they will never find the satisfaction they are looking for. In 2009 my father inexplicably left our family for another woman. To let go is to release the images and emotions, the grudges and fears, the clingings and disappointments of the past that bind our spirit. Jack Kornfield, New beginnings are often disguised as painful endings. Lao Tzu, The truth is unless you let go, unless you forgive yourself, unless you forgive the situation, unless you realize that the situation is over, you cannot move forward. Steve Maraboli. Being present with someone can be very powerful, Dr. Narasimhan says. I have been trying to describe my feelings and emotions to my 18 year old son and today I finally told him how much I loved his mother and hated her at the same time. I cant get over the fact that my son who Imgave birth too wants no part of me. My guilt today is that after they were gone I became homeless and the deep pain of being seperated from them and not knowing where they were or when or if I would ever see them again made the lies they were told about me come true. My father and I have always been extremely close. Although sometimes defined as "an electronic version of a printed book", some e-books exist without a printed equivalent. My younger daughter and my other son were already being held down in the back if a car by their nefew. Its devastating. The new thing did not acknowledge what he has done, said or anything at all. My problem is people who were never there for me (physical abuse) and still arent there (refusing to acknowledge it happened or not caring that it did.) Im not sure what kind of grief I felt. They failed my sons as they shouldve recognized this family need group therapy at the very least. Lovell says you don't have to say as much as you think, and no one ever expects you to solve their problems. They married quickly, despite her being in her teens and him being 6 years older, after a very short time and she has now built a wall around herself and has no contact with any of her siblings or me. Inevitably, as it does with everyone, the death of someone they love will impact how they define themselves in the present and future. To think someone can control or gaslight your intelligent child is beyond belief. Mother said several times how sorry she was about the mess she was leaving behind. I am in the 9th grade as of right now and I plan on being the first to graduate from Highschool and to go to college and complete that. I will definitely be sharing this article with some of my friends who have a family member struggling with addiction, or has an adult daughter about to go to prison, or is going through a horrible break up! Just weeks before I spent days helping her get rid of bedbugs and we bought them a new bed and mattress pads and bug powder! Its loss & grief because family is too busy to care. I wish she didnt have to go so soon, she had so much to look forward to in life. I am not eligible until age 70 for my deceased spouses soc security just loads of his past due debts & hidden loans. This is ambiguous grief and the pain breaks my heart and hurts my soul. And our awareness of that can actually help us to leave meaningful, purpose-filled lives where we dont take for granted those moments and relationships. I loved that girl with all my heart and soul and not only did I take care of her when she was little, I enjoyed taking care of her. It was as though she had used yellow day glo paint on the whites of her eyes. I researched it a lot, and I didnt find much helpful information. I had no idea that level of evil existed. Within a yr by 23 yo they were full blown disrespectful, full of anger, & mean. Look at a divorce not as the end of a relationship but as the beginning of a new life with endless potential. Only his appearance is the same, minus the horseshoe shaped scar on the his head where the hair wont grow back. But, now, add my Sister and Brother to the mix, and I will probably mourn them too, I dont want to see them right now, if ever, that was a cruel thing to do to me. Her father passed away from overdoes a few months ago. Well walk you through each step. I maybe a broken person but I can heal, she is just evil. Shock and Denial . He was very articulate and loved talking to everyone. I never married, had no children and live alone. I miss my dog, who I put down last year, terribly, and even though I have other pets, the old fellow I lost was my best friend and my last link to another life that is now gone. He was always the best father and pop to my children. But guess what, in this scenario, we arent the parents, so dont get the roles backwards. Life is a gift we should all cherish, and with it comes both good times and bad. She holds her feelings in and is acting out in negative ways. Again, there is no right answer and this is just my two cents so a big part of this will be doing what feels right for you since you know your son best. Im so happy to find this forum .i googled grieving for someone living.im a mum of 4 children who mean the world to me I love them so much also a great husband .4 yrs ago my 21 yr old happy funny handsome boy became comsumed with criplling depression and anxsiety and is battling each day wuth this while on meds .he confides in me and im his rock so I recieve all his texts each day telling me how he wishes he wasent here ,this world not me for him how he cant take it anymore refuses therapy .my heart is broken to see him in such inner pain .withdrawn and sad .this took a big affect on me few weeks ago and I had a nervous breakdown through worry cryjng every day over him worring what each day will bring.almost like im grieving but but worst as it wont subside .as a result ive been put on meds ti help me though each day .i jumo when phobe rings always on edge not knowing what he might do. The day to day is so draining. A reason to get out of bed in the morning. My son took his life late 2013 (also had addiction and depression) but God had taken away my pain. I realized a decade or so back that the reason I would sneak into her purse & put my own money in it that I did it so Mom could buy a little something she wanted. Do you believe you are to blame for her abuse? The breakup could be a blessing in disguise. changed dog, sick dying dog to dead dog. I am so thankful to have found this. Even if the person isnt ready to talk just yet, reassure them that youll be there if and when that time comes. Still does today and will tomorrow. That said, if the thoughts are so hard to manage that they are interfering, a counselor (even just starting with your school counselor) might be a good place to start. The next day will be even easier. After going through a difficult divorce with my partner of 20 years, I met someone who was the light of my life. I was mad, I didnt know what was wrong everything was going well. He is minimally conscious. I love him. While male emotions still arent super accepted, millennial-aged guys tend to allow themselves to feel more strongly and openly than past generations.It only serves to reason this makes them hurt more. Anyway he was totally in love with his #1 Sarah & had pretty much deserted his family to go text, message, call or visit her any chance he got. The next day will be even easier. He finally made an appointment to see a counselor. But while I journey towards recovery, she plummeted. He wasnt going to back of I could see him mood changing. I am crying because I feel he is dead to me. His hatred for me drove me farther and farther into a hole. You will have to challenge yourself to be the best you can be. Why your life and happiness and freedom to flirt and isolate your issues so you can make up whatever is more important than my life is beyond me. it is so hard. I dont believe in this ambiguous grief.. Talking to friends and family is not an option, and you want nothing to do with what is going on around you. I try to put on a brave face but deep down it really hurts. She resented having to take care of her mother my Grandmother, and she is only recently coming to terms with the grief that situation presented her as she sees it as a clear and present danger again in her life, through me and our relationship. I believe its the same, I am sorry for your loss, I am dealing with the same. However about a year and a half ago she had spinal injections. Jumped from one lie to another. I cry. Thanks for giving me a place to comment about it. You may not realize that you are fully over your ex until you find yourself happy again with someone new. } ); Over time The mean tones eventually turn into horrible things no one should ever have to hear from anyone they love and miss. Its okay to miss him. We post a new article to Whats Your Grief about once a week. I am an adult now, happily married and a mother to a lovely girl. You will have plenty of other opportunities for jokes and light-hearted conversation. I understand. Shes obsessed by the way people look, therefore she wont go out in a wheelchair. I look forward to future posts. The breakup could be a blessing in disguise. Personally, when a friend starts texting me about anxiety, frustration, or something making them upset, I ask outright how I can best contribute. i am glad you found the post helpful and shared it. After a decade of financial struggle and tremendous stress, I know where I want to be in the future, but the gap between there and where I am now is still enormous. This reply is for L, I understand so much of where you are coming from. I mentally lost my brother to schizophrenic paranoia. We have to just feel it and let it pass. READ MORE Your dreams are how you work on crap that has happened to you! This is what adults life is all about and sometimes trying your best it simply isnt enough. Right there with ya! I have done that , except for in my heart. I am worried about her and our relationship. Bawl your eyes out. One of my boys have a mental health issue. After 9 years I still miss who he once was. Kam Kaudle September 7, 2020 at 10:47 am Reply. Even though I should have recognized grief within myself, it took my sister to tell me I was grieving my still alive husband. She constantly lies and omits information from me. My grandmother forced herself on my mother and lives with her to take care of her, even though she can do most things herself and is basically fully healed. She has brain damage is from the brain infection and is currently receiving chemotherapy. Im not sure if I just was afraid to face the truth about his condition or if I am just some punk who couldnt overcome my resentments of the past. Suffering and losing those we love is, tragically, something we all have to endure at some point. I am taking an online loss and grief class at the university and everything in it makes me cry (this was one of the readings). I honestly think this grief is much worse than losing a loved one. I would if I allowed myself to. He would not do that and we ended up having and argument, and he hasnt talked to me since. In fact, people often post these kinds of photos for the express purpose of making their exes jealous (regardless of whether they are the dumper or the dumpee). My eldest grandchild and granddaughter is still living, she will be 5 in October. Last week I put my 16 year old daughter into residential care. All those memes that say if your child is bad its your fault thus perpetuating ignorance and displacement of blame and kids will never learn to be responsible for their own actions. My nephews (Ryan age 23, Dillon 19 and William 17) found her. And because society does not recognize ambiguous grief there is nowhere one to turn to for support and the resulting isolation is unbearable. How can I go on? You try to remind them of all the good memories and make them see that it wasnt so bad after all. In 7 months Ive spoken to him 3-4 times for mere seconds. A google search should be able to help you locate a group in your area. Check out our article on Anticipatory Grief, which is about the grief that comes when we anticipate that we are going to lose someone. So when she did call 911 and the ambulance got there it was almost to late. It is ISOLATING. D . My husband had a massive stroke 8 years ago. She told me that I needed to leave. You'll tell yourself that you will never be able to find a person who will love you the way that they did. Recently she tried vaping and marijuana which is out of character for her. Question: We were best friends. Call 911: If someone is in immediate danger, call 911. This happened 18 yearss ago and I have been running and running from the reality of ehat happened and from facing the pain. Question: My girlfriend of 9 months left me on 8 October 2019 because she thought I cheated on her. Her son lives with his girlfriend and her family. is it possible to have this over a dog? It sounds like severe depression, as just bringing it up makes her cry. If your partner thinks that you're ignoring them, they will feel like their opinions and emotions aren't important to youand consequently, neither is the relationship. I feel like I am not alone. Have you by chance seen either of our posts on overdose? Teens can be so cruel and it breaks my heart for her. Before I continue I should add that my daughter had a wonderful upbringing. These 45 years, I now know I have been suffering anniversary / ambiguous grief also. For 2 and half years i have been forced in a panic state. My father attempted suicide last year. I am grieving! Now Im able to accept whats happened and have enjoyed my mom and the time we have left in a whole new light. She was lying on the bed, unable to speak, her head was wrapped into gauze, she had tubes everywhere, unable to move, unable to tell me anything, any single word. Im so sorry for all that youre dealing with. I tried to reach in to get het keys but I couldnt. I grieve the man he was. I used to part of a larger family and now am alone, aside from my son. Theres no wrong way to do grief. She went to sleep on Christmas night and never woke again. More than likely she will think you're just being spiteful. Just continue thanking God for His goodness upon your life. It is responsible for telling our brain where and how our body is oriented in space, walking, moving, etc. So many trips to the icu unit. When he took his medication and didnt take street drugs he was his old funny, charming and brilliant self; every time he relapsed it was like a death. When I was able to go see see him was two and a half months after the wreck hes been asleep in a coma for more than half the time. Here Im trying my best to keep my boys in a home that for most requires 2 working adults to pay, keep up with all the bills without any dime expect for my income & my youngest social security income. I hope that you are in a much better place now. In all honesty, I did this before she died, I spoke to her telepathically because I was a thousand miles away. Jean Schuna September 25, 2016 at 11:53 pm Reply, Christy, It sounds like you may have been involved with a narcissist. I am now grieving for these 2 who at the moment are still living and am desperate to see them more regularly than I can. Hes lost his ambition. Types of Grief and Loss / Types of Grief and Loss : Litsa Williams. A death can weaken the primary support system/family structure in the following ways: Which means they have a life full of milestones and rituals like weddings, graduations, learning to drive, birthdays, and first jobs; and they likely imagined their loved one would be a part of these. I have a 14 year old daughter and reading your postbreaks my heart. She constantly told me never to come home. Find people you can confide in that are safe. I will be thinking of you, Shelley Wilbur January 30, 2018 at 4:50 pm Reply. Talks terrible to me. ( They have never known her before drugs we have already explained to them that she is sick in her brain.. to explain her previous absences), Krissie June 21, 2021 at 11:19 am Reply. She wouldnt talk to meShe has a partner who all the while has been letting her have her own way. Aishling Guerin February 22, 2018 at 7:10 pm Reply. I might as well use it for helping, instead of worrying all the time. The thing is Ive had enough now. I just have to deal with it. Not only the woman in my 20s, but also a healthy person that could do anything anytime without worrying about pain, exhaustion, bright lights, smells, etc. I still feel the exact same way as I did the night that I found out. I as well struggle with anxiety and went through horrible PPD after my fourth was born. I accept his reality. I dont understand. My uncle told me my dad has borderline schizophrenia but I always thought it was bipolar. She was supposed to appear in court today for sentencing. Emotionally I am so pleased to have found this website and now understand that my moods, depressions over the years have been some form of grief or another. My son is schizophrenia and as a mother it is extremely painful and sad . My dads birthday is in 2 days and I have been doing terribly. Life is too precious to end it early. I knew my new wife wouldnt support a long court fight for 2 boys who were just going to make trouble for us and our 2 younger sons. You are tired of blaming yourself, so it suddenly becomes their fault. Her husband is an alcoholic and had introduced it again into their home last year and drinks heavily himself. His memories of his life are mostly gone. I have an amazing husband and beautiful children and yet I found myself very angry and in a desperate need for a father figure. He is breaking emotionally and so hard not knowing how to help him through this. I just wanted to remind you that there is hope; despite the difficult time you are going through, the best is yet to come! Journal all your favorite memories of your mom, cry as hard and often as you need, and know that it will get better. I dont know who this person is anymore, and its hit me hard recently how much I miss my mother. I have lived through 8 years of anticipatory grief and now one year since his death. He is our ever present help in time of trouble., Snow White October 30, 2016 at 5:10 pm Reply. Her siblings and I feel exactly as you do. Thank you for writing this. I never knew it had a name. No one knew how bad Id been struggling, and I didnt realize what was wrong with me. Find the right music the breakup song that touches your heart and soul and you will feel comforted, consoled, and less alone. Jacquie: Commit him Involuntarily. Anna Larose July 12, 2018 at 6:38 am Reply, I had this friend, for fun wel call him Lewis he was very good looking but also had this very amazing intellect that got you talking for hrs and felt comfortable like nothing Ive experienced yet -he may be dealing with things from his past and I dont know if hell ever get out of the mindset We no longer speak to eachother and at times I have memories of him and I once happy full of hope for a greatfuture but I feel like his own insecurities holds him back and he wont let me call him up and help him get through things I am grieving Lewis eventhough he is alive the fact were no longer and no longer in touch even to see him in the mall or anything just to see him and see if hed come talk to me I pushedhim away because I was jealous and hes easily thrown me out of his life or maybe makes it look easy but I still have his words stuck in my head- were only delaying the inevitable thats what he said to me beforei for jealous and did drastic things to get his attention. They are both great kids despite the struggles in their family. FinnGirl March 2, 2022 at 3:00 pm Reply. It took awhile to get back on my feet but I had a daughter that helped me do that because she depended on me being sane. But she doesn't believe me. Dawn B October 4, 2019 at 9:12 pm Reply. She basically cant relieve herself when she needs to. I lost my husband of 10 years to addiction and mental illness. I feel like I am dealing with both types of grief here because my grandmother has dementia and only remembers her daughter and me most of the time. Tanya Hoang August 29, 2020 at 12:09 am Reply. On December 23rd my mom told me that my dads brother had found him dead in his apartment. If you need to talk, I can share with you on how to have peace also. Youre doing great in caring for him and loving him. Kate October 19, 2018 at 11:06 pm Reply. Its a terrible thing to witness. Today I cried reading this post. Litsa January 4, 2015 at 11:10 am Reply. I am not sure what your issues were but change is always hard and always an adjustment. Obviously there were issues in the relationship. My husband tries, but due to his exs addiction issues hes got sole custody of his kids so he doesnt relate to my grief. Just the same, I get it and Im sorry your struggling with this pain. Previous to our breakup I was having lapses of memory that had increased so significantly in the last couple of years we were together. Life is what you make of itso go out and make the most of your newfound freedom. marlene cox April 23, 2019 at 11:51 pm Reply, my Sons grandfatehr passed away Oct 26 after a long hospice care in our house it was stressful and draining .. @ days after Grandfathers funeral My Sons father grandpas Son that cared for him passed away unexpectedly from a massive heart attack .. My Sons gries is immense and I do not know what to do hes been to counseling church nut it seems like it is consuming him I feel terrible and wishn it was me that died, Cristal January 8, 2020 at 6:51 pm Reply. I am mad at everyone. I am 17 years old too and I cant imagine me losing my father. Will it matter? I will pray continuously in my prayers that you find your way which will be a glory to our God, and to your dad! We have changed our entire lifes for him. I dont know if you believe in God or not. Janet November 13, 2020 at 1:41 pm Reply, Hi, thank you for this article. Remember that time heals all wounds! 2 years ago by then 19yr old son had a car accident and suffered a brain trauma that changed him. Jenni January 15, 2015 at 9:45 am Reply. Feeling lost and alone, Monica. Hes had neuropsychological testing 3 times since the injury and theres been no change. Disappearing into PTSD at hands of university roommate putting gun to his head. I want to cry at times, but after seven years I have become so dulled to everything that I cant. The kids do seem to be getting over it, since they are all doing well in school now and have friends. But both started at 22 & cut me out of their life by 23 yrs old. The court ordered me to pay child support, I would be in jail if I didnt pay. Then I told her that it was a joke. Crisis Text Line: Get 24/7 help from the Crisis Text Line . Any advice would be appreciated. I dont bear them any grudge. So even if it looks like your ex is carefree and living their best life just days or weeks after you break up, that probably isn't the case. Do you know someone helping a teenager deal with grief? My daughter lived with me the majority of her pregnancy, I was in the delivery room and they lived with me after my granddaughter was born. Perpetual Pain and Fear April 9, 2019 at 9:53 am Reply. Turned the project down. She fit in with other highly intelligent & creative people. I still dont know how to tell her i want her around when im like that. Losing someone you love hurts deeply but we must go on and live our best life. Mary Kate Cranston October 17, 2014 at 8:51 am Reply. You promise to do anything to make it work. Anything you need, Ill be there., I want to support you in any way you need. reality he denies any use possibly smoking or chasing seen him other day my god deterating in him is scary my heart is ripped to shreds trying to cope with guilt for if you call it turning blind eye. Sonya November 5, 2015 at 11:13 pm Reply. I keep trying to reach them but I cant. I just miss him and wish that I could have told him that I loved him one last time. This means identifying exactly what your friend or family is going through. Thank you again! When they unexpectedly find the note, it will be a pleasant surprise, which may lift their mood.. I feel very bad for my sister but I am also hurting inside and i just cant seen to let the anger go. And, although younger tweens and teens still have some work to do emotionally and developmentally, older teens (approximately 16-18) who are able to understand complex relationships and others points of view, are likely to grieve in the same way adults do. I know his eyes are very dilated. Heck, 6 weeks ago he was telling me about quantum physics (in particular spooky action at a distance, the base for a communication system. My daughter will not talk to anyone in our family. My ex has a mental illness, he needs to take care of himself. Gets drunk. There are many support groups for us. I will never understand why people have children if they can be so quick to reject or write them off if they decide they no longer want them in their lives. But there are things you can do and say to comfort someone going through any number of difficult situations: Tiffany Lovell, a licensed behavioral therapist and mental health professional based in North Dakota, says its never easy to initiate a conversation with someone who is struggling because were afraid of saying the wrong thing., On the flip side, when someone is struggling, the feelings of isolation are often overwhelming, Lovell says. It was as if I heard that he was as good as dead. I hope this article has validated that you can grieve someone who is still alive. God bless! Lynn, I am praying profusely that I reach you in time. My heart hurts and I just dont know what to do. An ebook (short for electronic book), also known as an e-book or eBook, is a book publication made available in digital form, consisting of text, images, or both, readable on the flat-panel display of computers or other electronic devices. He has become very dependent and I feel responsibilty for everything. We do. I miss the easy laughs & fun conversations & not worrying about her recording me if Im sad, goading me into talking about things to be misrepresented later, or taking notes on our conversations & leaving out the positive things I say, just the mom concerns Ive had that she makes into war crimes. Id be elated if my mom even texted me at this point. Here are a few examples you can write in a card to someone going through divorce or separation. I know what kept me and sustains me to this day,and that is amazing Grace. My dad still has no idea I even know the truth. Admitting I am and have been angry with them undoubtedly not my finest hour. My junior year she asked me to watch the dogs as the rest of the family went on vacation together. Question: My husband left me on March 15, 2019 after 17 years together. Similar to other traumas, like the death of a loved one, breakups can cause overwhelming, long-lasting grief. My son has been diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, three years now, and I know this is a never-ending sorrow, and enduring sadness. Im aware of numerous families with a missing family member. He brought the living out of the dead and the dead out of the living. But again I am scared of him. I was lucky enough though to have been raised to know when enough is enough and i now go to the student consular that my school offers. Based on your examples of her behaviors, I dont have the impression shes insane, psychotic, or schizophrenic; she DOES seem to have emotional problems and likely depression. your article is very helpful, Cathryn March 15, 2020 at 2:16 pm Reply. It got my attention. The church one you mentioned might give him a feeling of presser or anxiety he doesnt need. I am honest with her, telling her it will be hard the first year, but that the hurt will lessen gradually. Oh Matt, so sorry you had reason to find this post, but as you do I am so glad you found us. 2022 Galvanized Media. Debbie, both of my older children started showing signs of narcissistic personality disorder at 22 yrs old. The doctors did not think she would be able to get pregnant. I havent heard it one time since she had the stroke and it really hurts. Texting allows people to respond on their own terms if and when theyre ready. So saddened by the thought that I wasnt there to listen to their hurts or celebrate their victories. We moved a few times until about 6 years ago. Yada yada yada, 3+ years laterIve never quit or given up. More on emotions later. It is OK to not feel OK., I can see you are having a rough time. My husband had an aneurysm rupture which left him very confused and unable to form new memories or make decisions for himself. 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